Aftercare is an elusive beast. Some submissives need it and others would rather be left alone. However, because aftercare really depends on the mood of the submissive and the intensity of the scene, it is always important for a Dominant to be on standby to provide it
What exactly is aftercare? It's attending to emotional and physical needs once a scene is over. Many others will say that it’s just for the bottom. Aftercare is in fact the care given to all individuals in the scene once it is over.
It is not limited to immediately after the play is over, but can last hours, days or weeks later. Oftentimes it involves reaffirming each other that everything is well, getting some food and water and taking care of possible wounds and bruises. Later, aftercare may involve comforting words while distressed, calming confusion or showing love and affection.
There is no one way to provide aftercare. It is as unique as the individual. As a submissive, you should try to learn what you need after a scene so that you can add that to your negotiations when you play with others. Do you need a blanket and some snuggle time? Perhaps candy and a water? What else might you need? Learn these things and remember to ask or at least discuss them before playing.
Both Dominants and submissives alike are encouraged to attend this workshop to learn how to prepare for aftercare when needed.
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